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9 Things to Think about Before You Give Up

9 Things to Think About Before You Give Up

Things to think about

Original Post at Marc and Angel Hack Life

If you feel like you’re at the end the road with nowhere to go, realize you are lying to yourself.  You have imprisoned yourself in your own mind by telling self-defeating stories – stories about what your life should be like, what you should have already accomplished, and so forth.  By doing this you’ve created a tiny space in your mind and you’ve begun to believe you are actually living in it.

But you are NOT.  You are alive in a vast world with infinite destinations.  Take a moment to remind yourself of this.  Go outside.  Look at the sky and the clouds.  THIS is the space in which you really live.  Breathe it in.  Then look at your current situation again.

Here are some things you need to consider before you give up:

  1. You never fail until you’re satisfied with failure. – Failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the choice to get back up.  Sometimes you have to fail a thousand times to succeed.  Which means you haven’t really failed yet; you’ve just found a bunch of ways that don’t work.  So don’t get so hung up on a few failed attempts that you miss every new opportunity coming your way.  All of your ideas that don’t work are simply stepping stones on your way to the one idea that does.  As Winston Churchill once said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”  Read Awaken the Giant Within.Voice is a liar
  2. What you have learned is what’s important. – Life always offers you a second chance – it’s called tomorrow.  But this second chancedoesn’t mean anything if you haven’t learned from the events of today.  You have to acknowledge your troubles but gather strength from them, and laugh at your mistakes but learn from them.  Getting a second chance in life is about giving yourself the opportunity to grow beyond your past failures.  It’s about learning as you go and positively adjusting your attitude and efforts toward future possibilities.
  3. Tough times are just part of life’s natural balance. – Life lives, life dies.  Life laughs, life cries.  Life gives up and life tries.  And life looks different through everyone’s eyes.  In fact, who you were, who you are, and who you will become are three completely different people.  And as you gradually grow beyond the person you were yesterday, keep life’s challenges in perspective.  Hear life’s harmony, and notice the delicate balance.  Realize that life is like playing a grand piano.  The white keys create your happiness and the black keys denote your troubles.  But as you go through life’s journey, remember that the black keys also create music.
  4. Pain helps you grow. – Sometimes things must change so you can change.  Sometimes you must break a little so you can get a peek inside to see what an awesome powerhouse you are.  Sometimes mistakes must be made so wisdom can be earned.  Sometimes you must overcome heartache so you can begin to follow your heart again.
  5. Success is a way of living. – Don’t let your struggles become your identity.  Not everything in your life will go as you expect it to.  This is why you need to drop expectations, live in the present, and go with the flow, rather than against it.  Remind yourself that it’s perfectly okay not to be perfect.  Ultimately, success is not something you achieve, it is what you learn and how you grow as you deal with the realities of life – it is a way of living and being.  Read As a Man Thinketh.
  6. You can choose differently. – The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective.  And in many cases, the only thing in life you have control over is your perspective.  No matter what happens, YOU control Progress not perfectionwhat the meaning is, and what to do with the meaning you give to the circumstance.  Choose to react in a way that motivates happiness, love, or forgiveness, even when circumstances make that choice difficult.
      1. It’s not supposed to be easy. – Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday.  Again, success is tied to long-term determination.  Successful people keep moving and trying.  They make mistakes, but they do not quit.  If things in your life aren’t happening as planned right now, that’s okay.  It just means it’s not the right time.  Life’s brick walls are not there to keep you out, they’re there to give you a chance to show how badly you want something.  They’re there to stop the people who don’t want it as bad as you do.
  7. Simplify, simplify, simplify. – Like all magnificent things, life is quite simple.  Its simplicity is found not in seeing how little you can get by with – that’s poverty – but how efficiently you can conquer your biggest difficulties.  Remember, the greatest wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.  Your most significant ideas and accomplishments will be genius in their simplicity.  One day you will find the right words, the right decisions, and the right solutions that will lead you to victory, and they will be far simpler than they seem right now. Read The Power of Less.You are not a tree
  8. Life is still good. – You may have seen better days, but you have also seen worse.  You might not have all your wants, but you do have all your needs.  You woke up with a few aches and pains, but you woke up.  Your life may not be perfect, but it is good.  And more good things are coming down the road as long as you keep moving forward.

What of these is your favorite? Let us know in the comments below!

Your Kids Want this More than Heroin

We all know this scene:

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You just got into the wrong checkout line at the grocery…

You’re in line at the grocery store.

A child who looks like he needs a little more exercise starts dancing around with a king sized Reece’s Peanut Butter Cups package.

‘The mother is going to tell him heck no,’ you think to yourself.  You know this game (we all played them in ourCandybars supermarket own childhoods!)

If you were her, you would say no – that kid does NOT need a candybar.

Sure enough, she shrugs him off.

“Uhhhhhhnnnnnnnnnnnn…” starts the boy in a low wail, as if the world is crashing down.

You start to wish you had chosen a different checkout line… how long is this going to go on for.

The boy. Keeps. Wailing.

What is this???? He’s put the Reece’s on the belt and she pretends not to notice…

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Private’s Major Donut Malfunction lasted into adulthood…

 

A major malfunction has just occurred.

Can you identify what just happened here?

Well, this mom has just rewarded negative behavior.

With a candybar that is going to have a NEGATIVE effect on this kid’s physical and emotional well-being.

If you’re a nerd for brain facts, you probably already know that children are constantly creating chemical connections as they learn how the world works.

Not only are kids watching an adult role model’s every move for cues on what to do and how to act…

They’re also developing these synapses in 2 key areas that will affect their EVERY undertaking.

Usually, FOREVER.

Those 2 areas are the centers for pleasure and pain.

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More specifically, they’re developing rules, or blueprints… if you want to think of it in those terms.

Ways they can gain pleasure and avoid pain.

And parents who use food as a reward (and a reward for negative behavior at that – don’t even get me started)…

Well, they’re pretty much guaranteeing that they’re going to mess their child up.

These simple, everyday things about how you respond to your child can affect how successful your child is for life!

Ever hear people talk about having a food addiction, and think, ‘Just get off your a** and go work out!’

Well, they may not be as lazy as you think.

This year, several studies were backed up with further info that says sugar is more addictive than cocaine and heroin.

Like, just as addictive as cocaine?Boy with bowl of sugar

Nope, 8 TIMES more addictive.

So, are all incentives bad?

Of course not.

In fact, there are several things to keep in mind when you want to use incentives in a positive way.

First, know your goal: what positive behavior do you want to support with a reward?

How about less sugar and MORE physical activity – email me for help on that one J

That way, you can set your child up with good behaviors for life, rather than keep putting band-aids on bad behavior.

Plus, when you respond to your child’s every whim, you’re letting him or her control the show.

When you set up a general direction for your child, you’re doing your job as a parent to be a guide – and a responsible role model.

So, no more band-aids!

If your child is controlling the show, give him or her something to work for!!

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Second, keep your rewarding consistent.

If 30 minutes of physical activity gets a (non-food) treat, make sure your child can earn the treat EVERY time.

If you skip, the whole system is broken down.

Third, consider what’s called “differential” incentives: let your child decide how hard they want to work.

And let the reward size equal the work output.

Not only does this inspire harder output, it also builds confidence and an inner sense of control.

FitRanX for Kids uses this scientifically proven system in its reward system to associate physical activity with the pleasure centers in the BRAIN.

During class, your child earns tickets for achieving goals like working harder to win that game and tickets for showing up.

Just like Chuck E Cheese.

And what children of a certain age DON’T like Chuck E Cheese?

That’s right!

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And this program grows with your kids, because not only do they get small rewards each time, they’re also working toward a bigger goal…

(Leveling Up and receiving those colored RanX bands).

Bet you didn’t know we did all that in the Kids’ program, did you!!

How are you doing at setting up a positive reward system for your children?

Shoot me and email or leave a comment below and let me know, I’d be happy to talk with you about it!

– Sgt Nick Rians

Inspire Mondays ONE… Who’s Watching You?

Do you know who is watching your fitness life and goals?

Brain workout

 

The FitRanX “INSPIRE” value means that you are taking others along with you.

If you’re motivated, you’re doing this whether you know it, or not.

If you’re getting traction and results, people are paying attention.

(If you’re not getting results, we need to talk! Contact us on our Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/fitranx and let us know what you need to see!)

The question is, are you letting others into your fitness success?

It’s a matter of effectiveness in leadership and INSPIRATION.

This is the basis for the following blog series. Think of your fitness life as a business.

You are the “entrepreneur” of your body and how well you inspire others to their fitness potential.

Lesson One: The Law of the Lid

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The ability to lead is the “lid” that determines a person’s effectiveness.

The lower an individual’s ability to lead, the lower the lid on his potential.

The better a person is at leading, the higher the lid on his potential for achievement.

Can a restaurant – one of the most successful restaurants of all time – teach us anything about our personal effectiveness?

The restaurant: McDonald’s. The answer: yes, and the key is that they weren’t always so successful.

Some key partners in the restaurant had a very specific “lid” on their leadership potential.

If they can learn this lesson and become a multi-billion dollar conglomerate, we’re betting you can inspire others to get fit.

A Huge Ship with No One at the Helm?

You are the creator

In the 1930s, Dick and Maurice McDonald opened one of the first fast food restaurants.

By the mid-‘50s, their annual revenue was $350,000, and they took home about $100,000 each year.

But despite their success, they were not true leaders.

They tried to franchise their restaurants, but sold only 15 licenses, of which only 10 became actual restaurants.

In contrast, Ray Kroc joined them in 1954 and proved himself a powerhouse of leadership.

He assembled a team of the sharpest people he could find, worked hard, and sacrificed for the business.

In 1961, he bought the McDonald brothers out for $2.7 million.

Today, the company has 34,000 stores in 119 countries.

The McDonald brothers’ weak leadership put a lid on their ability to succeed.

Everywhere you look, you can find examples of success being limited by lack of leadership.

For example, Steve Wozniak was the brains behind Apple in the 170s, but his leadership lid was low.

By contrast, Steve Jobs’ leadership lid was high, and he built a world-class organization out of Apple.

To apply the law, take a look at the following steps.

Lesson 1

Once you’ve done this, check back with us for Law TWO: The Law of Influence.

Stay tuned for our next law to succeed in your fitness “entrepreneurship!”

If you want some extra accountability on this, leave the answers to the 4 questions below and we’ll help you keep track.

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