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9 Things to Think about Before You Give Up

9 Things to Think About Before You Give Up

Things to think about

Original Post at Marc and Angel Hack Life

If you feel like you’re at the end the road with nowhere to go, realize you are lying to yourself.  You have imprisoned yourself in your own mind by telling self-defeating stories – stories about what your life should be like, what you should have already accomplished, and so forth.  By doing this you’ve created a tiny space in your mind and you’ve begun to believe you are actually living in it.

But you are NOT.  You are alive in a vast world with infinite destinations.  Take a moment to remind yourself of this.  Go outside.  Look at the sky and the clouds.  THIS is the space in which you really live.  Breathe it in.  Then look at your current situation again.

Here are some things you need to consider before you give up:

  1. You never fail until you’re satisfied with failure. – Failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the choice to get back up.  Sometimes you have to fail a thousand times to succeed.  Which means you haven’t really failed yet; you’ve just found a bunch of ways that don’t work.  So don’t get so hung up on a few failed attempts that you miss every new opportunity coming your way.  All of your ideas that don’t work are simply stepping stones on your way to the one idea that does.  As Winston Churchill once said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”  Read Awaken the Giant Within.Voice is a liar
  2. What you have learned is what’s important. – Life always offers you a second chance – it’s called tomorrow.  But this second chancedoesn’t mean anything if you haven’t learned from the events of today.  You have to acknowledge your troubles but gather strength from them, and laugh at your mistakes but learn from them.  Getting a second chance in life is about giving yourself the opportunity to grow beyond your past failures.  It’s about learning as you go and positively adjusting your attitude and efforts toward future possibilities.
  3. Tough times are just part of life’s natural balance. – Life lives, life dies.  Life laughs, life cries.  Life gives up and life tries.  And life looks different through everyone’s eyes.  In fact, who you were, who you are, and who you will become are three completely different people.  And as you gradually grow beyond the person you were yesterday, keep life’s challenges in perspective.  Hear life’s harmony, and notice the delicate balance.  Realize that life is like playing a grand piano.  The white keys create your happiness and the black keys denote your troubles.  But as you go through life’s journey, remember that the black keys also create music.
  4. Pain helps you grow. – Sometimes things must change so you can change.  Sometimes you must break a little so you can get a peek inside to see what an awesome powerhouse you are.  Sometimes mistakes must be made so wisdom can be earned.  Sometimes you must overcome heartache so you can begin to follow your heart again.
  5. Success is a way of living. – Don’t let your struggles become your identity.  Not everything in your life will go as you expect it to.  This is why you need to drop expectations, live in the present, and go with the flow, rather than against it.  Remind yourself that it’s perfectly okay not to be perfect.  Ultimately, success is not something you achieve, it is what you learn and how you grow as you deal with the realities of life – it is a way of living and being.  Read As a Man Thinketh.
  6. You can choose differently. – The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective.  And in many cases, the only thing in life you have control over is your perspective.  No matter what happens, YOU control Progress not perfectionwhat the meaning is, and what to do with the meaning you give to the circumstance.  Choose to react in a way that motivates happiness, love, or forgiveness, even when circumstances make that choice difficult.
      1. It’s not supposed to be easy. – Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday.  Again, success is tied to long-term determination.  Successful people keep moving and trying.  They make mistakes, but they do not quit.  If things in your life aren’t happening as planned right now, that’s okay.  It just means it’s not the right time.  Life’s brick walls are not there to keep you out, they’re there to give you a chance to show how badly you want something.  They’re there to stop the people who don’t want it as bad as you do.
  7. Simplify, simplify, simplify. – Like all magnificent things, life is quite simple.  Its simplicity is found not in seeing how little you can get by with – that’s poverty – but how efficiently you can conquer your biggest difficulties.  Remember, the greatest wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.  Your most significant ideas and accomplishments will be genius in their simplicity.  One day you will find the right words, the right decisions, and the right solutions that will lead you to victory, and they will be far simpler than they seem right now. Read The Power of Less.You are not a tree
  8. Life is still good. – You may have seen better days, but you have also seen worse.  You might not have all your wants, but you do have all your needs.  You woke up with a few aches and pains, but you woke up.  Your life may not be perfect, but it is good.  And more good things are coming down the road as long as you keep moving forward.

What of these is your favorite? Let us know in the comments below!

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Your Kids Want this More than Heroin

We all know this scene:

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You just got into the wrong checkout line at the grocery…

You’re in line at the grocery store.

A child who looks like he needs a little more exercise starts dancing around with a king sized Reece’s Peanut Butter Cups package.

‘The mother is going to tell him heck no,’ you think to yourself.  You know this game (we all played them in ourCandybars supermarket own childhoods!)

If you were her, you would say no – that kid does NOT need a candybar.

Sure enough, she shrugs him off.

“Uhhhhhhnnnnnnnnnnnn…” starts the boy in a low wail, as if the world is crashing down.

You start to wish you had chosen a different checkout line… how long is this going to go on for.

The boy. Keeps. Wailing.

What is this???? He’s put the Reece’s on the belt and she pretends not to notice…

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Private’s Major Donut Malfunction lasted into adulthood…

 

A major malfunction has just occurred.

Can you identify what just happened here?

Well, this mom has just rewarded negative behavior.

With a candybar that is going to have a NEGATIVE effect on this kid’s physical and emotional well-being.

If you’re a nerd for brain facts, you probably already know that children are constantly creating chemical connections as they learn how the world works.

Not only are kids watching an adult role model’s every move for cues on what to do and how to act…

They’re also developing these synapses in 2 key areas that will affect their EVERY undertaking.

Usually, FOREVER.

Those 2 areas are the centers for pleasure and pain.

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More specifically, they’re developing rules, or blueprints… if you want to think of it in those terms.

Ways they can gain pleasure and avoid pain.

And parents who use food as a reward (and a reward for negative behavior at that – don’t even get me started)…

Well, they’re pretty much guaranteeing that they’re going to mess their child up.

These simple, everyday things about how you respond to your child can affect how successful your child is for life!

Ever hear people talk about having a food addiction, and think, ‘Just get off your a** and go work out!’

Well, they may not be as lazy as you think.

This year, several studies were backed up with further info that says sugar is more addictive than cocaine and heroin.

Like, just as addictive as cocaine?Boy with bowl of sugar

Nope, 8 TIMES more addictive.

So, are all incentives bad?

Of course not.

In fact, there are several things to keep in mind when you want to use incentives in a positive way.

First, know your goal: what positive behavior do you want to support with a reward?

How about less sugar and MORE physical activity – email me for help on that one J

That way, you can set your child up with good behaviors for life, rather than keep putting band-aids on bad behavior.

Plus, when you respond to your child’s every whim, you’re letting him or her control the show.

When you set up a general direction for your child, you’re doing your job as a parent to be a guide – and a responsible role model.

So, no more band-aids!

If your child is controlling the show, give him or her something to work for!!

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Second, keep your rewarding consistent.

If 30 minutes of physical activity gets a (non-food) treat, make sure your child can earn the treat EVERY time.

If you skip, the whole system is broken down.

Third, consider what’s called “differential” incentives: let your child decide how hard they want to work.

And let the reward size equal the work output.

Not only does this inspire harder output, it also builds confidence and an inner sense of control.

FitRanX for Kids uses this scientifically proven system in its reward system to associate physical activity with the pleasure centers in the BRAIN.

During class, your child earns tickets for achieving goals like working harder to win that game and tickets for showing up.

Just like Chuck E Cheese.

And what children of a certain age DON’T like Chuck E Cheese?

That’s right!

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And this program grows with your kids, because not only do they get small rewards each time, they’re also working toward a bigger goal…

(Leveling Up and receiving those colored RanX bands).

Bet you didn’t know we did all that in the Kids’ program, did you!!

How are you doing at setting up a positive reward system for your children?

Shoot me and email or leave a comment below and let me know, I’d be happy to talk with you about it!

– Sgt Nick Rians

Guest Blogger: My boyfriend wants me to get fake boobs

04/15/2014 2 comments
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Part I: FitRanX Intern Jackie’s Body Image Blog

This week, I’m asking the question: can my boyfriend morally ask me to get fake boobs?

First I Must Ask…. Do I Even Like this Idea, Myself?

The answer: maybe/kind of/someday/only in dreams/maybe in the future/too mad at my boyfriend to really answer this question.

To spare you from the cornucopia of my internal conflicts on this issue, I have created a board game map of how this goes down, should I dive right into this can of worms.

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For your viewing pleasure.

Now, for the sake of this post, and my sanity, let’s suppose I will entertain the idea of putting two slugs in my body.

First of all, some none-too-exhibitionist background: I do actually have breasts, currently. They are pictured here to the left.

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They are breasts that I’ve had for quite a while… and ones that I liked, I thought!!

Some of my internal gnawing on this includes: Won’t both he and I be devastated if I agree to have surgery and then he isn’t satisfied with the results, anyway?

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Please also see pictured differences in opinion between he and I on any “improvements” to be made.

Or will it be a let-down no matter what they look like, when this man realizes he has already had the ultimate rule and role over my body, to actually customize what it looks like?

I’m not an idiot, I promise

Read more…

SABOTAGE!!! Weeks 11 & 12

Sabotage…

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Sorry to say, this is not an article about the beastie boys.

This is about the one thing we have all done to ourselves at least once while on a “diet.”

Yes…. Sabotage.

 

It doesn’t matter how, when, where, or who does it – but I can guarantee you that it will happen.

It happens to the best of us, including me and Sergeant Rians!

I was doing so well on my transformation, aka “diet.”

Key word here is WAS.

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Then it happened, My Birthday.

Now, I know you are thinking, “A piece of birthday cake is not that bad.”

I would normally agree with you but, my husband went all-out for my birthday (he usually does!!).

Here’s how the sabotage started…..

 

Friday morning I was told to be ready and in the car by “0800.”

Any of you that have kids knows that it’s nearly impossible to be on-time, ever.

We have 3 kids, but we were pulling out of the driveway at 7:58 a.m. (simply because I am amazingly punctual 🙂 )

I had no idea where we were going.

Long story short….we headed out to Catalina for the entire weekend.

We are on the boat heading out to Catalina, and I was literally calculating how many meals we would have to be eating out.

Holy crap, I was about to commit Diet Suicide!

Here I was supposed to be celebrating my 36th birthday, and all I could think about was how hard it was going to be to get back on track Monday.

This is where the sabotage comes in to play.

I could have ordered the grilled chicken breast with veggies instead of the fish & chips.

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Or…. instead of ice cream in a waffle cone – I could have had frozen yogurt, but hey birthdays only happen once a year, right?!?!?!

That’s where I did myself in.

I put my mind set in the zone of “It’s for my birthday, I’ll bounce back on Monday”… SABOTAGED!!!!

 

It was a snowball effect from that point on.

I haven’t eaten like that in MONTHS!!

I knew I would pay the price on Monday when I weighed myself.

Boy, oh boy… did I pay!  4lb GAIN!!!!!

After a few tears were shed, I sucked it up and told myself, back to work.

I must end with this –

I enjoyed myself tremendously and knowingly sabotaged my own diet but this time it was for a good cause ;0).

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Now…. I know I will NOT make this a habit, but if this has happened to you make sure you don’t make it a habit of your own.  I don’t need to explain to you the term “Yo-Yo Effect……”

Mrs. Melissa Rians

Getting all HUNG UP on Numbers

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Weight loss battle Weeks 9 & 10. I am at a loss for words, and for the people that know me… that’s saying a lot.

I have embarked on this weight loss battle for almost 10 weeks now and I am not where I planned on being.

The last thing I posted was about “hitting the wall.”

Well, I have discovered that “the wall” is about 10 feet high and is made of solid brick!!!

I told myself when I reached week 8 that I would drop the last 8 pounds of my battle in 2 weeks flat.

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Did I reach that goal… uhhh NO.  I only lost 1 pound in 2 weeks!!!!

I am at 137 pounds and seem to be stuck without progress, or is there progress?

The thing is, I have been too focused on the numbers and not my body itself.

I love to lift weights, I am a weight lifter.

Now, if you are envisioning a super ripped/buff chick well that’s NOT what I mean.

I had muscle tone and was strong, I loved my body.

I love lifting weights, doing squats, curling, and pressing it feels amazing.

I had completely stopped lifting after baby number 3.

I had been focusing just on my diet and not exercise.

But after hitting the wall, I picked up a bar and started squatting again.

In the past two weeks I feel amazing!!!

I feel stronger and my endurance is way up.

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I can jog a solid mile and a half now without stopping (might seem like small potatoes to you but this is GREAT to me!)

This is where I hear my all-knowing hubby, Sgt. Nick Rians provides some infinite wisdom: “Just remember, a faster metabolism comes from more lean MUSCLE.”

So keeping that in mind, maybe I need to stop focusing on those numbers and focus on how I look and feel.

Maybe, just maybe I’m getting rid of some of that fat and building back some of that muscle?!

The point is, what works for me might not work for anybody else.

For me personally, I need to stop getting hung up on the numbers.

After all, it’s just a number.

I can get down to 120 lbs and look like a stick with lose skin, or be a solid 130 lbs and look amazing.

It’s all up to me, and it’s different for everyone.

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If you get stuck like me, take a break and change things up.

Mrs. Melissa Rians

FitRanX: Helped me stay focused & motivated

Hey FitRanXers,

I have a special post for you today. This post is coming straight from the mouth of one of our great success stories. Emilie take it away!

November 2011, I found myself dreading another round of holidays because somehow over the course of four years I had gained 40 lbs. I am a petite 4 ft 10.5 inches, 40 pounds on my frame is a lot. I was at a crossroads, I could no longer squeeze into anything in my closet; I had to choose.

Will I surrender to this weight & buy new clothes?

If I do that I am accepting this is now my size. If I do that I am accepting myself this big.

I sat on the sofa contemplating with a bucket of fried chicken. I perused Facebook and look at pictures of my healthy & FIT friends. I was stuck and needed a way, path. I needed HELP!

We all gain weight for various reasons, depression, illness, etc. Life HAPPENS, but at some point we can use it as an excuse or use it as fuel to Fight. I chose to fight. A voice within was shouting, “WE ARE NOT DONE! THIS IS NOT WHO YOU ARE! GET UP AND FIGHT! YOU ARE NOT SURRENDERING TO THIS WEIGHT!”

Luckily I found a FitRanX gym that helped me get back on track & STAY motivated. I am competitive in nature and having a ranking system with set benchmarks to measure my progress in strength and conditioning was EXACTLY what I needed.

I started working out 30 min a day, 5x a day. It was so hard waking up in the morning to get to the 7:00 am workout. It was November and COLD at 5:30 am in the morning, but I HAD TO get up to make it in for my 7:00 am FitRanx training. Baby steps, building the habit.

I’ll admit, I was jealous of my peers at the gym.

They had their FitRanx bracelets, I didn’t.

They were Strong, I felt Weak.

They were Fit, I was Fat.

I wanted to prove to myself I could do that too, I could “Level Up”.

I could wear that FitRanX band & be PROUD of what I accomplished.

Bit by bit, one week turned into two and then three…

My first FitRanX test I was nervous, I didn’t think I was strong enough…  It was hard, I was scared, I didn’t think I could do it.  My trainer prepared me and tested me at Level 2, even though I thought she was crazy! I am not ready for Level 2?!

That ONE Test & I was hooked.

How far can I go?

Show me the next test. How do I get there?

She’s a Level 5? I can do that.

All I needed was a path, and benchmarks of progress to keep me motivated. In a span of 7 months I pushed myself and went from Level 2 to Level 4.5…

When I started I had exercise induced asthma, that’s gone now.

I had 39% Body Fat, now I’m at 22%.

I have my eye on Level 5.

Having FitRanX help me measure my strength and conditioning was a huge factor in keeping me motivated. The top of one mountain is the bottom of the next, that is how it felt. Each time I leveled up I celebrated my accomplishment, then I turned toward the next mountain, my next conquest.

Are you ready to “Level Up?”

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