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Your Kids Want this More than Heroin

We all know this scene:

Boy screaming supermarket

You just got into the wrong checkout line at the grocery…

You’re in line at the grocery store.

A child who looks like he needs a little more exercise starts dancing around with a king sized Reece’s Peanut Butter Cups package.

‘The mother is going to tell him heck no,’ you think to yourself.  You know this game (we all played them in ourCandybars supermarket own childhoods!)

If you were her, you would say no – that kid does NOT need a candybar.

Sure enough, she shrugs him off.

“Uhhhhhhnnnnnnnnnnnn…” starts the boy in a low wail, as if the world is crashing down.

You start to wish you had chosen a different checkout line… how long is this going to go on for.

The boy. Keeps. Wailing.

What is this???? He’s put the Reece’s on the belt and she pretends not to notice…

major malfunction

Private’s Major Donut Malfunction lasted into adulthood…

 

A major malfunction has just occurred.

Can you identify what just happened here?

Well, this mom has just rewarded negative behavior.

With a candybar that is going to have a NEGATIVE effect on this kid’s physical and emotional well-being.

If you’re a nerd for brain facts, you probably already know that children are constantly creating chemical connections as they learn how the world works.

Not only are kids watching an adult role model’s every move for cues on what to do and how to act…

They’re also developing these synapses in 2 key areas that will affect their EVERY undertaking.

Usually, FOREVER.

Those 2 areas are the centers for pleasure and pain.

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More specifically, they’re developing rules, or blueprints… if you want to think of it in those terms.

Ways they can gain pleasure and avoid pain.

And parents who use food as a reward (and a reward for negative behavior at that – don’t even get me started)…

Well, they’re pretty much guaranteeing that they’re going to mess their child up.

These simple, everyday things about how you respond to your child can affect how successful your child is for life!

Ever hear people talk about having a food addiction, and think, ‘Just get off your a** and go work out!’

Well, they may not be as lazy as you think.

This year, several studies were backed up with further info that says sugar is more addictive than cocaine and heroin.

Like, just as addictive as cocaine?Boy with bowl of sugar

Nope, 8 TIMES more addictive.

So, are all incentives bad?

Of course not.

In fact, there are several things to keep in mind when you want to use incentives in a positive way.

First, know your goal: what positive behavior do you want to support with a reward?

How about less sugar and MORE physical activity – email me for help on that one J

That way, you can set your child up with good behaviors for life, rather than keep putting band-aids on bad behavior.

Plus, when you respond to your child’s every whim, you’re letting him or her control the show.

When you set up a general direction for your child, you’re doing your job as a parent to be a guide – and a responsible role model.

So, no more band-aids!

If your child is controlling the show, give him or her something to work for!!

Girl working out

Second, keep your rewarding consistent.

If 30 minutes of physical activity gets a (non-food) treat, make sure your child can earn the treat EVERY time.

If you skip, the whole system is broken down.

Third, consider what’s called “differential” incentives: let your child decide how hard they want to work.

And let the reward size equal the work output.

Not only does this inspire harder output, it also builds confidence and an inner sense of control.

FitRanX for Kids uses this scientifically proven system in its reward system to associate physical activity with the pleasure centers in the BRAIN.

During class, your child earns tickets for achieving goals like working harder to win that game and tickets for showing up.

Just like Chuck E Cheese.

And what children of a certain age DON’T like Chuck E Cheese?

That’s right!

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And this program grows with your kids, because not only do they get small rewards each time, they’re also working toward a bigger goal…

(Leveling Up and receiving those colored RanX bands).

Bet you didn’t know we did all that in the Kids’ program, did you!!

How are you doing at setting up a positive reward system for your children?

Shoot me and email or leave a comment below and let me know, I’d be happy to talk with you about it!

– Sgt Nick Rians

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