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9 Things to Think about Before You Give Up

9 Things to Think About Before You Give Up

Things to think about

Original Post at Marc and Angel Hack Life

If you feel like you’re at the end the road with nowhere to go, realize you are lying to yourself.  You have imprisoned yourself in your own mind by telling self-defeating stories – stories about what your life should be like, what you should have already accomplished, and so forth.  By doing this you’ve created a tiny space in your mind and you’ve begun to believe you are actually living in it.

But you are NOT.  You are alive in a vast world with infinite destinations.  Take a moment to remind yourself of this.  Go outside.  Look at the sky and the clouds.  THIS is the space in which you really live.  Breathe it in.  Then look at your current situation again.

Here are some things you need to consider before you give up:

  1. You never fail until you’re satisfied with failure. – Failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the choice to get back up.  Sometimes you have to fail a thousand times to succeed.  Which means you haven’t really failed yet; you’ve just found a bunch of ways that don’t work.  So don’t get so hung up on a few failed attempts that you miss every new opportunity coming your way.  All of your ideas that don’t work are simply stepping stones on your way to the one idea that does.  As Winston Churchill once said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”  Read Awaken the Giant Within.Voice is a liar
  2. What you have learned is what’s important. – Life always offers you a second chance – it’s called tomorrow.  But this second chancedoesn’t mean anything if you haven’t learned from the events of today.  You have to acknowledge your troubles but gather strength from them, and laugh at your mistakes but learn from them.  Getting a second chance in life is about giving yourself the opportunity to grow beyond your past failures.  It’s about learning as you go and positively adjusting your attitude and efforts toward future possibilities.
  3. Tough times are just part of life’s natural balance. – Life lives, life dies.  Life laughs, life cries.  Life gives up and life tries.  And life looks different through everyone’s eyes.  In fact, who you were, who you are, and who you will become are three completely different people.  And as you gradually grow beyond the person you were yesterday, keep life’s challenges in perspective.  Hear life’s harmony, and notice the delicate balance.  Realize that life is like playing a grand piano.  The white keys create your happiness and the black keys denote your troubles.  But as you go through life’s journey, remember that the black keys also create music.
  4. Pain helps you grow. – Sometimes things must change so you can change.  Sometimes you must break a little so you can get a peek inside to see what an awesome powerhouse you are.  Sometimes mistakes must be made so wisdom can be earned.  Sometimes you must overcome heartache so you can begin to follow your heart again.
  5. Success is a way of living. – Don’t let your struggles become your identity.  Not everything in your life will go as you expect it to.  This is why you need to drop expectations, live in the present, and go with the flow, rather than against it.  Remind yourself that it’s perfectly okay not to be perfect.  Ultimately, success is not something you achieve, it is what you learn and how you grow as you deal with the realities of life – it is a way of living and being.  Read As a Man Thinketh.
  6. You can choose differently. – The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective.  And in many cases, the only thing in life you have control over is your perspective.  No matter what happens, YOU control Progress not perfectionwhat the meaning is, and what to do with the meaning you give to the circumstance.  Choose to react in a way that motivates happiness, love, or forgiveness, even when circumstances make that choice difficult.
      1. It’s not supposed to be easy. – Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday.  Again, success is tied to long-term determination.  Successful people keep moving and trying.  They make mistakes, but they do not quit.  If things in your life aren’t happening as planned right now, that’s okay.  It just means it’s not the right time.  Life’s brick walls are not there to keep you out, they’re there to give you a chance to show how badly you want something.  They’re there to stop the people who don’t want it as bad as you do.
  7. Simplify, simplify, simplify. – Like all magnificent things, life is quite simple.  Its simplicity is found not in seeing how little you can get by with – that’s poverty – but how efficiently you can conquer your biggest difficulties.  Remember, the greatest wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.  Your most significant ideas and accomplishments will be genius in their simplicity.  One day you will find the right words, the right decisions, and the right solutions that will lead you to victory, and they will be far simpler than they seem right now. Read The Power of Less.You are not a tree
  8. Life is still good. – You may have seen better days, but you have also seen worse.  You might not have all your wants, but you do have all your needs.  You woke up with a few aches and pains, but you woke up.  Your life may not be perfect, but it is good.  And more good things are coming down the road as long as you keep moving forward.

What of these is your favorite? Let us know in the comments below!


Guest Blogger: My boyfriend wants me to get fake boobs

04/15/2014 2 comments

Part I: FitRanX Intern Jackie’s Body Image Blog

This week, I’m asking the question: can my boyfriend morally ask me to get fake boobs?

First I Must Ask…. Do I Even Like this Idea, Myself?

The answer: maybe/kind of/someday/only in dreams/maybe in the future/too mad at my boyfriend to really answer this question.

To spare you from the cornucopia of my internal conflicts on this issue, I have created a board game map of how this goes down, should I dive right into this can of worms.


For your viewing pleasure.

Now, for the sake of this post, and my sanity, let’s suppose I will entertain the idea of putting two slugs in my body.

First of all, some none-too-exhibitionist background: I do actually have breasts, currently. They are pictured here to the left.


They are breasts that I’ve had for quite a while… and ones that I liked, I thought!!

Some of my internal gnawing on this includes: Won’t both he and I be devastated if I agree to have surgery and then he isn’t satisfied with the results, anyway?


Please also see pictured differences in opinion between he and I on any “improvements” to be made.

Or will it be a let-down no matter what they look like, when this man realizes he has already had the ultimate rule and role over my body, to actually customize what it looks like?

I’m not an idiot, I promise

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SABOTAGE!!! Weeks 11 & 12



Sorry to say, this is not an article about the beastie boys.

This is about the one thing we have all done to ourselves at least once while on a “diet.”

Yes…. Sabotage.


It doesn’t matter how, when, where, or who does it – but I can guarantee you that it will happen.

It happens to the best of us, including me and Sergeant Rians!

I was doing so well on my transformation, aka “diet.”

Key word here is WAS.


Then it happened, My Birthday.

Now, I know you are thinking, “A piece of birthday cake is not that bad.”

I would normally agree with you but, my husband went all-out for my birthday (he usually does!!).

Here’s how the sabotage started…..


Friday morning I was told to be ready and in the car by “0800.”

Any of you that have kids knows that it’s nearly impossible to be on-time, ever.

We have 3 kids, but we were pulling out of the driveway at 7:58 a.m. (simply because I am amazingly punctual 🙂 )

I had no idea where we were going.

Long story short….we headed out to Catalina for the entire weekend.

We are on the boat heading out to Catalina, and I was literally calculating how many meals we would have to be eating out.

Holy crap, I was about to commit Diet Suicide!

Here I was supposed to be celebrating my 36th birthday, and all I could think about was how hard it was going to be to get back on track Monday.

This is where the sabotage comes in to play.

I could have ordered the grilled chicken breast with veggies instead of the fish & chips.


Or…. instead of ice cream in a waffle cone – I could have had frozen yogurt, but hey birthdays only happen once a year, right?!?!?!

That’s where I did myself in.

I put my mind set in the zone of “It’s for my birthday, I’ll bounce back on Monday”… SABOTAGED!!!!


It was a snowball effect from that point on.

I haven’t eaten like that in MONTHS!!

I knew I would pay the price on Monday when I weighed myself.

Boy, oh boy… did I pay!  4lb GAIN!!!!!

After a few tears were shed, I sucked it up and told myself, back to work.

I must end with this –

I enjoyed myself tremendously and knowingly sabotaged my own diet but this time it was for a good cause ;0).


Now…. I know I will NOT make this a habit, but if this has happened to you make sure you don’t make it a habit of your own.  I don’t need to explain to you the term “Yo-Yo Effect……”

Mrs. Melissa Rians

Getting all HUNG UP on Numbers


Weight loss battle Weeks 9 & 10. I am at a loss for words, and for the people that know me… that’s saying a lot.

I have embarked on this weight loss battle for almost 10 weeks now and I am not where I planned on being.

The last thing I posted was about “hitting the wall.”

Well, I have discovered that “the wall” is about 10 feet high and is made of solid brick!!!

I told myself when I reached week 8 that I would drop the last 8 pounds of my battle in 2 weeks flat.

Baby weight loss

Did I reach that goal… uhhh NO.  I only lost 1 pound in 2 weeks!!!!

I am at 137 pounds and seem to be stuck without progress, or is there progress?

The thing is, I have been too focused on the numbers and not my body itself.

I love to lift weights, I am a weight lifter.

Now, if you are envisioning a super ripped/buff chick well that’s NOT what I mean.

I had muscle tone and was strong, I loved my body.

I love lifting weights, doing squats, curling, and pressing it feels amazing.

I had completely stopped lifting after baby number 3.

I had been focusing just on my diet and not exercise.

But after hitting the wall, I picked up a bar and started squatting again.

In the past two weeks I feel amazing!!!

I feel stronger and my endurance is way up.

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I can jog a solid mile and a half now without stopping (might seem like small potatoes to you but this is GREAT to me!)

This is where I hear my all-knowing hubby, Sgt. Nick Rians provides some infinite wisdom: “Just remember, a faster metabolism comes from more lean MUSCLE.”

So keeping that in mind, maybe I need to stop focusing on those numbers and focus on how I look and feel.

Maybe, just maybe I’m getting rid of some of that fat and building back some of that muscle?!

The point is, what works for me might not work for anybody else.

For me personally, I need to stop getting hung up on the numbers.

After all, it’s just a number.

I can get down to 120 lbs and look like a stick with lose skin, or be a solid 130 lbs and look amazing.

It’s all up to me, and it’s different for everyone.


If you get stuck like me, take a break and change things up.

Mrs. Melissa Rians

Super Toilet Bowl Sunday

02/04/2014 1 comment


5 weeks into this baby weight burn off and I was concerned about Super Bowl Sunday.

I have been doing my weigh-ins on Saturday mornings which worked perfect for this weekend.

I am down only 1 pound this week which was a total bummer.

I just don’t get it sometimes,  I have been eating great, and exercising.

I do allow myself two cheat meals a week but still expect to lose more than a pound.

That was how I was feeling on Saturday….. then came Super Bowl Sunday.

I was so worried about pigging out too much and gaining back 3-4 pounds.


I was laying in bed right next to the amazing Sgt Nick Rians and little Sam and I felt it.

My stomach was upset and I had the worst headache ever.

Then in comes Suzy (the 4 yr old)  “mommy my tummy hurts”.

I suddenly realized that today was going to be a miserable day!

As we all know, when a man gets sick it’s like the world is coming to an end, but when a woman gets sick we still have to be mommy, wife, housekeeper, and cook.

After spending half the day in the bathroom myself, then the other half of the day getting vomited on by my 4yr old, I got to watch everyone else pig out on the food I prepared ( even though I was super sick) and I realized, “Wow I’m going to be down more than a pound after today!!!”

Profile of a young woman vomiting into a toilet bowl

Not the ideal way to lose weight, but it just shows you where my brain was.

So for all of you that blew your diet for the sake of a football game, it sure beats spending Super Bowl in the bathroom or getting thrown up on.

I hope the scale was good to you all yesterday.

Mrs. Melissa Rians

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“I just high fived myself in the meat department”

01/22/2014 1 comment

So,  I’m down another 2lbs this week and I couldn’t help but feeling like it wasn’t enough.

I was assured by my other half, aka Sgt. Nick Rians that 2-3lbs loss a week is ideal and healthy.

Still I was stuck feeling like it should be more.

While still sulking over a 2lb loss I found myself standing in the meat department of our grocery store.

I was standing there looking through the ground beef trying to find a package that came as close to 2lbs as possible for dinner.

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I finally found one that was dead on 2lbs.

I’m holding this large hunk of ground beef in my hands and it hits me…. I lost this much meat off my body in the past week!!!!

I suddenly didn’t feel so bad anymore.

If ever you feel that your 2-3 lbs loss is not substantial, just go to the meat department at your grocery store and find that hunk of meat that matches your weight loss and just hold it in your hands.

You will realize that the 2lbs you worked so hard to lose really is pretty good, and give yourself a little pat on the back.

I would advise to wait until you get into the car for that, otherwise you might get some really odd looks from the butcher…. I certainly did:-)
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My new thing this week is,  instead of driving every where I would walk with the stroller instead.  ( if it was within reasonable distance )

Now I hope nobody is laughing yet, but my 4yr old can’t even keep up with me while I walk.

She is constantly telling me mommy slow down I’m tired of running.

What I am saying is, I’m fast.

I’m pretty sure I look like one of those “power walkers” and to top it off I am constantly talking to my baby while I’m strolling along at hyper speed.

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I really enjoyed myself, maybe it was all the natural vitamin D  I was taking in but it was one heck of a workout.

I will never laugh or poke fun of those power walkers again, and I plan on keeping this as part of my weekly routine.

In total, down 7lbs in 3 weeks and saved one tank of gas!

Not only am I becoming my old hot self, I’m giving people something to laugh at as they drive by me while I’m talking into my stroller at hyper speed, and saving the environment!

Melissa Rians

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“I just had a baby…4 months ago”

01/06/2014 2 comments


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Hello everyone!!! Melissa Rians here, wife to the notorious Sgt. Nick Rians.

As you may all know, I had a beautiful baby girl on September 5, 2013.

She was a bruiser at 8lbs 9ozs.

She turned 4 months old on January 5th and I couldn’t be happier (with her that is)!

As for myself…. I am pretty disappointed.

This is my third baby, and I remember it being a whole hell of a lot easier to lose the baby weight before, or was it?

Here’s the stats:  1st kiddo I was 25, worked 10hr shifts, hit the gym 5 days a week until the day he was born.

After, I  lost ALL 35lbs within 3 months (awesome).

2nd bambino I was 31, worked from home and still went to the gym 5 days a week up until a few days before she was born.

weight-scale-helpAfter her I lost ALL 30lbs within 6 months.

Which brings us to the present.

I am 35, I worked 20 hrs a week, and worked out at home 4 days a week until I was 38 weeks.

I gained 35lbs and it’s now 4 months later and I’m JUST begining the weight loss battle!

I have always been pretty critical of myself and this past holiday season i was pretty upset with the way i still looked.

I looked as though I “JUST” had a baby. ( but that was 4 months ago )

I found myself chatting with a girlfriend on christmas eve and she said to me,  ” wow you look great for just having a baby! ”

I was kinda puzzled by this statement because I didnt feel that I “JUST” had a baby.

So I asked her “when is it not ok to say i just had a baby”?

I mean you don’t hear people saying “I JUST ate an entire pizza….4 months ago” or ” I JUST got in a car accident… 4 months ago”.eating-pizza

Her whole “compliment” got my wheels turning and made me realize that since I didn’t feel like I JUST had a baby I wanted to stop looking like I JUST had a baby!

I don’t know what kind of time window justifies saying “I just had a baby” but for me that time window has passed.

Please note that I did say “for me” I am not trying to insult anyone or offend any new moms.

I’m just ready to drop the excuse, and get my body back!!!

So here I am, 1 week into my new diet and exercise plan.

So cliche right?!?!  I started off my new diet on New Year’s Day.

Hey, I needed a clean slate, a jumping off point what’s a better time than the first day of a new year.

I’ve lost 3lbs my first week.  I honestly don’t feel any different, well with the exception of being sore from working out anyways.

I thought about posting my current post baby stats with a picture, but couldn’t in anyway force myself to do it.

I will however post before and after pictures once I reach my goal.

I no longer want to hear ” Wow you look great for JUST having a baby ” I want to hear ” Wow, you JUST look great!”

So to help motivate you and myself…I will be sharing my weight loss journey with you.

Stay tuned:-)





Mrs. Melissa Rians

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